Best Sex Positions For Female Orgasm

Sure, wild, crazy, never-knew-my-body-could-bend-that-way sex might keep your love life exciting, but if your goal is to really learn what works for you, keeping it simple to start is key. “Trying to accomplish complicated acrobatics distracts you from the sex itself, putting your focus on how you can contort yourself, rather than on just experiencing the sensations,” explains sex educator Dorian Solot, co-author of I (Heart) Female Orgasm.

“When you want to climax, the simplest positions are often also the best positions, and with a few modifications, you can make them even more orgasm inducing than they already are.” To help you get there, here are seven sex positions aimed at making your orgasm the main event.

The first time can be overwhelming — it’s a big deal, emotionally and physically, and so it may be a good idea to avoid, at least to begin with, getting too complicated or fancy.

But a big part of the equation is simply her getting comfortable. That, as her partner, is your job as well. Being nervous can tense her up and make the big first night fall flat before it even starts. No one wants either of you to be experiencing anything other than excitement and pleasure, and the first time can and should bring all that. 

“Don’t start at the far end of the Kama Sutra!” says Carol Queen, Ph.D. Good Vibrations staff sexologist. Also consider waiting on the positions that allow the deepest penetration (like legs-over-the-shoulders missionary). This is her first time at bat, you can get to the fancy stuff later.

But most of all, a virgin ought to be very aroused before penetration (this is true of any and all intercourse, pretty much, but especially first time). So, no quickies. No wham-bam in the van. This is about making the effort. The reason why: “Arousal causes the genitals to undergo physical changes that make insertion feel better.

Insufficient arousal will probably equal pain with intercourse, and this is not a good way to begin a partnered sex life; some women never get over the experience of having a painful loss of virginity,” says Queen. The turn-on is thesingle most important element of this night (besides consent), and if the turn-on is high, the choice of sex positions may not matter quite so much.

While we’re at it, it’s important to note that “virginity” is a subjective and cultural term. “For many North Americans, ‘virgin’ often refers to those who have yet to have experienced penile-vaginal penetration; however, this is a very limiting definition, as many people (e.g. gay men, lesbian women, women who don’t enjoy penetration, but engage in other activities) have active sex lives in the absence of P-V penetration. They’re obviously not virgins,” says  Dr. Jess, Astroglide’s resident sexologist.

Type Of  Sex Positions

The Up and Over

Missionary position will never be the same again. "While on your back, put a pillow under your butt, lift your hips, and bring your legs up and back toward your shoulders, as though you're folding in half," says Solot. This move allows your partner better ease of thrusting and deeper penetration — a perk for both of you. But consider this a warm-up — you're getting yourself primed for a more intense orgasm.

Once you feel like you're getting into a groove, put your legs down and have him get into coital-alignment-technique (CAT) position. "He's on top, but he lifts his pelvic bone upward, aligning it with your clitoris," says sex therapist Gloria Brame, PhD. "Then he rocks against the area until you peak. The legs-up position is a slow burn that brings you to the brink and increases sensitivity. Then the addition of clitoral rubbing takes you over the edge in a bigger way than if you had done CAT alone," adds Brame.

The Down but Not Out

You've probably tried an all-fours pose before, and while doggy style is inarguably hotter than hot, in order to make it extra orgasmic, you need to modify it a bit. "Lie on your stomach, lifting your butt slightly so he can enter you," suggests Solot. "Your partner can prop himself up with his hands in a push-up position or lie on top of you." Not only does this facedown configuration provide increased friction as he moves in and out, but you can gently grind your clitoral area against the bed as well.

The Lusty Leg Wrap

With all the twisting and bending that goes on, sometimes sex can feel more like your cardio day at the gym than something designed to get you off. That's why it's important to have at least one relaxed orgasm-inducing position in your repertoire. Such as this: "While you're on your back, he should lie on his side, turned toward you," explains Solot. Read More