Best Sex Positions For Female Orgasm

Sure, wild, crazy, never-knew-my-body-could-bend-that-way sex might keep your love life exciting, but if your goal is to really learn what works for you, keeping it simple to start is key. "Trying to accomplish complicated acrobatics distracts you from the sex itself, putting your focus on how you can contort yourself, rather than on just experiencing the sensations," explains sex educator Dorian Solot, co-author of I (Heart) Female Orgasm. "When you want to climax, the simplest positions are often also the best positions, and with a few modifications, you can make them even more orgasm inducing than they already are." To help you get there, here are seven sex positions aimed at making your orgasm the main event.

The first time can be overwhelming — it’s a big deal, emotionally and physically, and so it may be a good idea to avoid, at least to begin with, getting too complicated or fancy.

But a big part of the equation is simply her getting comfortable. That, as her partner, is your job as well. Being nervous can tense her up and make the big first night fall flat before it even starts. No one wants either of you to be experiencing anything other than excitement and pleasure, and the first time can and should bring all that. “Don’t start at the far end of the Kama Sutra!” says Carol Queen, Ph.D. Good Vibrations staff sexologist. Also consider waiting on the positions that allow the deepest penetration (like legs-over-the-shoulders missionary). This is her first time at bat, you can get to the fancy stuff later.

But most of all, a virgin ought to be very aroused before penetration (this is true of any and all intercourse, pretty much, but especially first time). So, no quickies. No wham-bam in the van. This is about making the effort. The reason why: “Arousal causes the genitals to undergo physical changes that make insertion feel better. Insufficient arousal will probably equal pain with intercourse, and this is not a good way to begin a partnered sex life; some women never get over the experience of having a painful loss of virginity,” says Queen. The turn-on is the single most important element of this night (besides consent), and if the turn-on is high, the choice of sex positions may not matter quite so much.

While we’re at it, it’s important to note that “virginity” is a subjective and cultural term. “For many North Americans, ‘virgin’ often refers to those who have yet to have experienced penile-vaginal penetration; however, this is a very limiting definition, as many people (e.g. gay men, lesbian women, women who don’t enjoy penetration, but engage in other activities) have active sex lives in the absence of P-V penetration. They’re obviously not virgins,” says  Dr. Jess, Astroglide's resident sexologist.

Type Of  Sex Positions

The Up and Over

Missionary position will never be the same again. "While on your back, put a pillow under your butt, lift your hips, and bring your legs up and back toward your shoulders, as though you're folding in half," says Solot. This move allows your partner better ease of thrusting and deeper penetration — a perk for both of you. But consider this a warm-up — you're getting yourself primed for a more intense orgasm.

Once you feel like you're getting into a groove, put your legs down and have him get into coital-alignment-technique (CAT) position. "He's on top, but he lifts his pelvic bone upward, aligning it with your clitoris," says sex therapist Gloria Brame, PhD. "Then he rocks against the area until you peak. The legs-up position is a slow burn that brings you to the brink and increases sensitivity. Then the addition of clitoral rubbing takes you over the edge in a bigger way than if you had done CAT alone," adds Brame.

The Down but Not Out

You've probably tried an all-fours pose before, and while doggy style is inarguably hotter than hot, in order to make it extra orgasmic, you need to modify it a bit. "Lie on your stomach, lifting your butt slightly so he can enter you," suggests Solot. "Your partner can prop himself up with his hands in a push-up position or lie on top of you." Not only does this facedown configuration provide increased friction as he moves in and out, but you can gently grind your clitoral area against the bed as well.

The Lusty Leg Wrap

With all the twisting and bending that goes on, sometimes sex can feel more like your cardio day at the gym than something designed to get you off. That's why it's important to have at least one relaxed orgasm-inducing position in your repertoire. Such as this: "While you're on your back, he should lie on his side, turned toward you," explains Solot.

"Swing both legs over his hips and thighs, making a bridge over them." Then, just let him gently thrust into you. If it takes you a while to climax, this pose is ideal. "It's not very aerobic, so the sex can go on for a long time without either of you tiring out," says Laura Berman, PhD, director of the Berman Center and author of The Passion Prescription. "When you want to climax, it's easy to touch yourself or he can use his top hand to stimulate you.

On Top of the World

Woman-on-top tends to be a go-to for achieving orgasm, and for good reason. "It allows you to dictate the pace and depth of thrusting, but mainly, you have easy access to your clitoris," says Berman. "You can touch [it], have him touch it, or rub against his pubic bone to achieve orgasm." But you can up the ante by literally pulling a 180.

Twist around so you're pointed toward his feet in reverse cowgirl position. "Instead of straddling him, put your legs together, feet flat between his legs," suggests Brame. The benefits of this are twofold: With your legs together, the fit is even tighter, making the sensations more intense. Plus, there's increased internal stimulation, which combined with your own clitoral strokes, makes for an explosive orgasm.

Table for Two

In some cases, a simple change of scenery can aid in achieving orgasm. For this move, you'll need a kitchen table — one that comes to your partner's waist. "Lie down on the table with your butt near the edge," suggests Solot. "He enters you while standing between your legs, holding on to your hips for leverage." You can rest your feet on his shoulders or on the edge of the table.

Because he's standing, his hands are free to stroke your body," says Brame. "And he's at a perpendicular angle, rather than right on top of you, making it easier for him to touch your clitoris, unobstructed." To up your odds of orgasming, clench and lift up your butt, which will increase the pelvic tension and blood flow to the area.

The Sit and Straddle

Have your partner sit, and straddle him so you're face-to-face. "You have a lot of control over the speed, angle, and motion because you can use your arms and legs to help you maneuver," says Berman. "Rather than just moving up and down, which can be especially tiring, sway forward and back, rubbing your clitoral area against him." In addition to the freedom of movement, there are a few other benefits to this move.

"If you lean back just a little bit, you'll get greater internal stimulation and he'll be able to play with your clitoris," Brame explains. Plus, your breasts will be perfectly aligned with his mouth, adding a whole other layer to the sexual experience. Seriously, don't neglect the boobs, people.

The Sweet Spoons

Emotional attachment to your partner can absolutely play a role in orgasm. If that sounds like you, there's no configuration that's more snuggly than the spoon. To assume the position, simply lie on your side, your dude scooted up behind you. Rather than move in and out, he should stay inside you, gently thrusting against the front wall of your vagina.

 "Aside from fulfilling your cuddly needs, it provides consistent stimulation, which is key for achieving orgasm from intercourse," Berman points out. "Since he may not be able to penetrate you as deeply though, guide his hand around your [clitoris]." And just think: Once you've both climaxed, you'll be in perfect postcoital cuddle position too.

G-Whiz

When you lie on your back with your legs raised, it tightens your vaginal muscles and gives your partner easy access to the G-spot—so it's way easier to achieve an orgasm.

Doggie Style

Help your O along by massaging your clitoris as your partner stimulates your G-spot from behind.

Why it’s awesome:

It’s a great twist on the classic doggy style position, but it doesn’t require as much strength or flexibility from both of you, says Moushumi Ghose, a licensed marriage therapist and author of Classic Positions Reinvented. Plus, from this angle, it’s a bit easier for you or him to manually stimulate your clitoris.

How to try it:

Lie face down with your butt raised in the air for easy access. His legs should be close together inside yours. For more support, you can place a pillow under your stomach or prop yourself up with your forearms. To make it more intense, have him place his hands on his back or hips so he can thrust with more force.

Reverse Cowgirl

You get to call the shots in this sex position. Bonus: Reverse cowgirl helps delay your partner's climax, so you don't have to worry about rushing to the finish line.

Missionary

Think you know missionary? Think again: Shifting the angle of your legs in this go-to (and surprisingly versatile) position can make it feel so much hotter.

 

 

The Pinball Wizard

Put one of your legs over your partner's shoulder for an even more intense sensation.

Magic Mountain

Every time you rock against your partner's pelvis in this position, you'll be that much closer to the big O.

The Chairman

This sex position is perfect for hitting and stimulating your G-spot—but your hands will be free to wander elsewhere…

Backdoor Oral

Why it’s awesome:

“This can be a different sensation than typical oral sex positions, as you are coming at it from behind rather than in front,” says Wood.

How to try it:

With your knees bent, lie on your stomach and place a pillow under your hips, which will help lift your butt up so he will have easier access to your vulva, says Wood. This also leaves his hands free to insert a finger or two into your vagina for some internal stimulation at the same time.

The Double Decker

Why it’s awesome: 

This is an easy transition from any woman-on-top position, says Ghose. Plus, this angle lets your man see your body react to his thrusting and his hands are free to roam your whole body—from your breasts all the way down to your clitoris.

How to try it: 

Start in reverse cowgirl. Lean back until you're propped on your elbows, with your back on his chest and your arms supporting your body weight. Have him hold you at your waist to maintain more control over the rhythm of the thrusting.

Swing low

Perfect for when you've got the house to yourself and you've just enjoyed a romantic dinner. Strip his clothes off and straddle him

Supercharge it:

Make sure you keep strong eye-contact and lean forward for some passionate kisses

Erotic swordsman

Perfect for a sneaky corridor or passageway somewhere, this sex position will have you both feeling extra naughty and turned on!

Supercharge it:

Use the wall to help you really work up a fast rhythm

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